September, is here and my flight awaits, the list of things to do, pack, and check off are too long to count, but they are all swimming around in my head! I've finally gotten rid of my guilty coffee and decided that, since it is only a week until I leave, I am going to savor the moments with my boys. Today, I had a great day, Robin came round for lunch, and as always we had a good laugh, and I see how the boys are so comfortable with her, they are going to get on great, infact she is going to spoil them, get them use to the good life... I mean come on, matching clothes, clean faces, seprate spoons, how will they ever be able to go back!
No, but in all honesty, thank you so much to eveyone that has read this blog and told me what I needed to hear, " you are not a bad mother for taking this trip on your own" I needed to hear it again and again, and finally it sunk in, and you know how I know? Well let me share.
Today, we were in the park and I was introduced to a friend of a friend and in the conversation that continued the Canada trip came up and as I have encountered in the past the reaction was "by yourself, won't that be hard"? And I got all Jersey in my head like "oah no you dident!"
You know how we women are, we read into things, not always what is said, but how it's said or what they didn't say, or what they should of said first. Well, at that moment I went into my freudian defensive speil saying how ohhh well if Henke were to go away on a course for 10 days no one would even comment on it. And then my friend "Miss P" said "it's okay to want to go, and enjoy yourself!", and suddenly it was like all of the support I've gotten from all of the beautiful women in my life, came together and I floated away! There I was off on my tandom...yadda yadda yadda, and it hit me....
If someone truly wouldn't want to do what I am about to do, especially a stranger, then the easiest thing to say would be,,, wow how fun and nice for you to get to see your family, hope you get nice weather! (sorry couldn't help to get that weather joke in, if you've read the blog you know what I'm referring to) This is so because it leaves them not wanting for anything right, but maybe they would like to be able to have 10 days of alone time, but they too, are drinking that guilty coffee, just like me, and their initial reaction is coming from their own issues and really they are voicing their own inner monolog without even knowing it. I might be way off, maybe that mom was truly concerned that I was going to have a terrible time away from my kids, and just thought she would warn me, because God knows I haven't even given it a thought right!
Then, tonight my cousin Chelsea posted an awsome video on facebook where they photographed mothers holding a sign, and on the sign was their answer to the question... "what would you tell yourself if you could go back just before having your first child."Many of the signs brought tears to my eyes, but one was so fitting for this blog it said "It's okay to want a break".... now I just want to write a sign saying I'm taking a break, I'll be back!
No, but in all honesty, thank you so much to eveyone that has read this blog and told me what I needed to hear, " you are not a bad mother for taking this trip on your own" I needed to hear it again and again, and finally it sunk in, and you know how I know? Well let me share.
Today, we were in the park and I was introduced to a friend of a friend and in the conversation that continued the Canada trip came up and as I have encountered in the past the reaction was "by yourself, won't that be hard"? And I got all Jersey in my head like "oah no you dident!"
You know how we women are, we read into things, not always what is said, but how it's said or what they didn't say, or what they should of said first. Well, at that moment I went into my freudian defensive speil saying how ohhh well if Henke were to go away on a course for 10 days no one would even comment on it. And then my friend "Miss P" said "it's okay to want to go, and enjoy yourself!", and suddenly it was like all of the support I've gotten from all of the beautiful women in my life, came together and I floated away! There I was off on my tandom...yadda yadda yadda, and it hit me....
If someone truly wouldn't want to do what I am about to do, especially a stranger, then the easiest thing to say would be,,, wow how fun and nice for you to get to see your family, hope you get nice weather! (sorry couldn't help to get that weather joke in, if you've read the blog you know what I'm referring to) This is so because it leaves them not wanting for anything right, but maybe they would like to be able to have 10 days of alone time, but they too, are drinking that guilty coffee, just like me, and their initial reaction is coming from their own issues and really they are voicing their own inner monolog without even knowing it. I might be way off, maybe that mom was truly concerned that I was going to have a terrible time away from my kids, and just thought she would warn me, because God knows I haven't even given it a thought right!
Then, tonight my cousin Chelsea posted an awsome video on facebook where they photographed mothers holding a sign, and on the sign was their answer to the question... "what would you tell yourself if you could go back just before having your first child."Many of the signs brought tears to my eyes, but one was so fitting for this blog it said "It's okay to want a break".... now I just want to write a sign saying I'm taking a break, I'll be back!
